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The ideal family is comprised of a man, a woman and children. Many times the roles are defined by society or background and everyone comfortably (and sometimes not so comfortably) fits into these roles. Women are usually the primary caregivers due to their natural nurturing instincts while men are the providers.
Over the years, many men have come to define themselves by how much they can provide for their families and especially in material things. It is a misconception though because families are not just built with money and luxuries. There is so much more that a husband and father influences in the home even though some may not realize it.
It is possibly not publicized enough that men get lost in the ups and downs of provision and defining manhood and they forget why they are doing all that in the first place. Your place in the home is irreplaceable even though your wife seems to have everything from diaper-changing to meals under control. Finding where you come in will help you as a father and a husband to play your role even better.
Baby’s security
There is a certain feeling of safety that comes with having a present and hands-on father. The child immediately knows that they are well protected when those strong arms hold them. They grow up a little more confident and know they can place their trust in someone.
Sanity for mum
Women are built to endure all kinds of things and they can work through tiredness as though they will not have another day to do it. They are more effective when rested though. You taking over from her so that she can rest will help her hit the reset button and she will come back with more energy and with more love to give.
Raising children is no walk in the park, so don’t assume that she can’t possibly be tired yet all she did all day was change diapers and breastfeed. Try it out some time and you will know exactly what it entails.
Reassurance
Your children want to make you proud of them. They can feel like failures if they are not able to accomplish this or are not able to at least hear something in that line from you. Your wife might be raising your children and running your home but she remains a woman. She wants to know that she still makes your heart skip a beat and that you still find her beautiful. She also wants to know that you think she is a great mum. It boosts her confidence as a woman and as a mother as well.
Balance and direction
Children can be a crazy lot to handle and, for some reason, take a much longer time to respond to their mother’s instructions. When a father stands up to speak the children react much faster and things get done. Every child needs to have a little leeway but they also need to do things right and at the right time. A father’s presence provides this.
A woman is naturally inclined to follow her man. The man therefore provides direction in the home and the woman implements the ‘work plan’. This brings order into the home and therefore peaceful coexistence.
Mum won’t stretch herself thin
There is a lot of pressure for your wife to deliver and perform in all areas of her life. She will stay up the whole night with the baby and still want to scrub the house clean and make gourmet meals throughout the day. She might even think of throwing in a drink with a long lost friend and catch up on some work assignments.
You will need to remind her to take it slow even though she wants to feel like superwoman and then fill in for her.