History reminds society of all the struggles that women have had to go through to get where they are right now. Women have had to fight through prejudice, stereotypes, disbelief, heartbreaks and many more to assert their position on earth. Some still go through it but you cannot deny that they have made huge strides and can serve as great examples for young women that look up to them.
This means that when you bump into a woman, she most likely knows what she wants and goes for it. She has a good education and is probably not afraid of getting some more, she is financially stable, she is confident in who she is and she wields influence and power, whether in a small circle or a large one. A strong woman in this day and age probably doesn’t need a man’s financial resources. She even determines what role the man plays in her life, and it is not the traditional ones (more often than not).
A man looking to date a strong woman has a huge task ahead of him. She knows what she is about so she needs someone who will not be intimidated by any of it. She is not about to downgrade just because of a man. No sir. She is not intimidated by you either so don’t think that by being all aggressive you will cow her into silence. It does not work like that. And your money, well, it is yours. That discussion ends there. Good looks will only take you so far. Fame? Really? How is that an advantage to her?
How then do you win a strong beautiful woman over and turn it into something more than just fun? Here is what you should bring to the table.
Get your act together
An orderly man is very appealing. A man who knows what he wants, where he is going and how he plans to get there is well on his way to a strong woman’s heart. Do you have a job? Do you live alone, with roommates or in your parents’ house? Where do you see yourself in 10 years? 10 months? A woman looking to get married and raise a family is thinking of proper grounding so a sense of goo morals and maybe even religion.
It is not about how much money you have because a rich fool is of no use to a woman who wants to build a life with someone. Women also appreciate vision because a man with a vision is much more useful in the long run than one with money. She sees potential for greater things.
Be a good listener
When in the company of a strong woman you may feel like you need to let her know your achievements so that she sees you as a potential candidate. This actually achieves the opposite result. You talking about yourself makes her see you as egotistical, shallow, competitive and
probably even weak.
Instead, impress her with your listening skills. Don’t appear to listen. Listen. This shows her you are truly interested in her and you will get to know what makes her tick in the process. Get to know what she is about and not necessarily what she has achieved or accumulated over the years. She may be strong and confident but she is still a woman so the emotional side will come up every so often.
Add value
Help her, support her, give her words of wisdom, motivate her to better herself, and keep her accountable where she needs it. Use your abilities, skills and experience to pour into her life. She will appreciate value addition as opposed to just worthless chatter.
Be careful though, lest you get friend-zoned. Keep a little mystery about you (so listen more instead of talking, no temptation there) and she will want to get to know you more and unearth this mysterious creature. Be creative, spontaneous and do the unexpected. No strong woman wants a template! After all, she isn’t.