Can Wives Say No to Sex?
The one thing that married women always end up discussing is their husbands’ sexual appetite. Many wonder how their husbands manage to get sexually aroused almost every day while they feel like they could take a month’s break! That is just their biological make up and there is nothing much you can do to change that.
The other contentious issue is whether they can actually refuse sex from their husbands. Some say that it is wrong to say no (and some men second them vehemently) while those that consider themselves progressive say f course they can because after all, it is their body. This is quite the quagmire this one because not everyone will agree and sexual appetites are not going anywhere.
Okay, honestly speaking, women get tired. There is work outside the house, housework, children, homework, and meals and then there is the all-important husband. There is no me-time on that list. All of these can really drain you and an exhausted woman is much less willing to give it up. Not because she does not want to but because she is just too tired to.
Sustainability
That said, you can’t really keep saying no, can you? Every day of the week you are tired or have a headache. You may indeed be tired because your timetable is packed with all kinds of to-dos but can you really sustain a marriage like that? It will get much easier to say once you say it a couple of times and soon enough you will not even have to think twice. It will just flow out effortlessly.
Your husband may understand the first few times (any loving husband will) and will let you be. It will however eat at him because he will get aroused and the only person he can use this ‘gift’ on is you. He could easily get frustrated and it turns into something else. Not that he will cheat but the marriage will not be what it used to be.
Sometimes you are angry and can’t have sex because that is how women are wired. It is normal and okay but you can’t expect your husband to understand what you are feeling. You should consider talking things out instead so that he actually knows what you are going through and you can hopefully find a solution. It will leave you happier and there will be peace in your home. If you need him to chip in a little more in the home, ask him.
Flipside
Then again, why is sex a guy thing? Is it only men who enjoy sex? Why would you starve yourself of such a pleasurable thing that is at your disposal? Sex will help you relax and get rid of any tension (stress relief without setting foot in a spa); it will boost your feel-good hormones, give you some exercise and leave your skin looking great.
If you don’t enjoy sex find out why. Is it the position, do you find it boring, does it do nothing for you, is it painful or you just don’t see what the fuss is about? Try talking to your husband about that because sex is the one way that you guys can bond without having to spend a fortune. It allows you to expose your weaknesses to each other and remind yourselves that none of you is self-sufficient. You both need each other in every way possible. It is not just sex. You can look at it like a fellowship of sorts that only married people can enjoy.
So, to answer the question about whether wives can say no to sex, yes they can. Should they say no to sex? Yes but in the right circumstances because sex is good for them too and not just their husbands.